What does a “Divorce Recovery” mean and how do you know when you’ve fully recovered?

According to the Social Readjustment Rating Scale, Divorce is second only to the death of a spouse for trauma. Divorce recovery can therefore take quite some time to achieve for many. Indeed, a lot of people feel that it isn't possible for them at all. There are usually very strong negative feelings that come with … Continue reading What does a “Divorce Recovery” mean and how do you know when you’ve fully recovered?

How to Start Dating Again After Being Single For a Long Time

Dating After Divorce After being quoted in the article by Kimberly Delarosa in her article for ShesSinglemag.com, I thought that I would post my longer version of my thoughts on this subject. When considering if you are ready to start dating again, you need first to look at how you feel when the subject of … Continue reading How to Start Dating Again After Being Single For a Long Time

How to tell if you have chemistry.

Recently Sandra came to me and wondered if she would ever find a new relationship. Her experience over the last couple of years has been meeting men who are under employed and seem to have no permanent place to live. She has great boundaries and has been working to clearly understand what she wants out of a new relationship, … Continue reading How to tell if you have chemistry.

HOW TO START DATING AGAIN

As a coach working with women after divorce, and the best selling author of two books on the subject of how to move on and find new love successfully, I spend a lot of time helping women understand when and how is the best time to start dating again. When considering if you are ready … Continue reading HOW TO START DATING AGAIN

YOU’RE MORE RESILIENT THAN YOU THINK.

 The world looks very different than anything any of us have ever known right now. There isn’t any place to go to get away from this. 2020 has seemed to bring so many things to worry about right now besides the health aspect! Finances are in shambles for many. Either you’ve stopped working or you … Continue reading YOU’RE MORE RESILIENT THAN YOU THINK.

Are you SUPPOSED to be here?

Today I’m reflecting on where I’m “supposed” to be right now. That was somewhere over the Atlantic on route back from a trip to England to visit family and in particular to see my  sister who is suffering with cancer right now. My youngest daughter is “supposed” to be at college. My other kids in … Continue reading Are you SUPPOSED to be here?

Sending Light and love for the holidays

I have been notably absent in the last couple of weeks and I have felt like the Holidays were canceled this year. Trying to pack up and downsize in just a few weeks all while the Holidays are suddenly upon me and my youngest daughters are back here. The result of all this is a … Continue reading Sending Light and love for the holidays

It’s the most (wonderful/emotional /stressful/hopeful/lonely/) fill in your blank time of the year!

I'm going with wonderful, but there were years when I definitely didn't feel that way. As I am talking with clients and also already getting my kids’ “suggestions” for presents this week, my thoughts are focused on the Holidays and the various emotions that they evoke. Let me be upfront in saying that although I … Continue reading It’s the most (wonderful/emotional /stressful/hopeful/lonely/) fill in your blank time of the year!

Don’t climb ladders and other lessons I need to learn

I know you get it.  You know something is a really bad idea, but stuff needs to get done and who else is going to do it but you?  Right? So I apparently thought it was acceptable to climb a 24 foot ladder to fix something at my house all by myself because, well, not … Continue reading Don’t climb ladders and other lessons I need to learn